Transforming from Mrs. to Divorcée

Hi Ladies,

I remember when I was at, well what I thought was my peak I was "thriving" Married, Homeowner, successful business, great shape, friends, etc.

But things took a turn in 2019, and all that I built in the past decade came to a halt. I went from being separated to a year later a divorcée, I sold my penthouse, I removed "friends" from my life that weren't good for my well-being, I picked up from my hometown and moved to a new country all trying to figure out what my next steps were going to be.

So M, what's next? 

I honestly had no clue, I was just " going with the flow", a lot of trials and error..... finding myself outside of being a " Married, successful black woman"

I had to understand I was more than just a title. My relationship status was not my personality...

Me working myself til I passed out was not a flex...

Being stuck in a bubble of people who were toxic to my well-being was....exhausting...

I knew I wanted more and that determined DNA inside of me wanted it too... 

But, where do I start?

What do I do?

I didn't want to be reckless and mask my pain and hurt through bad habits from drinking to people.

So, I decided to face my ultimate fear of being a "Failure" and love TF out of that girl.

I became closer to Yahuah. I let out every cry in my fiber of hurt, I lost weight ( went from a 4 to a 00), and I cut off people who came to light as being an enemy. 

But, most of all, I forgave them all! 

Yup, you heard that right. I forgave every person that done me wrong, but I forgave myself for things I could have possibly done to hurt others ( unintentionally) 

Accountability, Fear, and Rejection became a part of my healing journey.

I started to build this new version of myself that was unrecognizable. She was fearless, she spoke up for herself, she set boundaries, she loved herself, and she elevated her appearance and mindset.

I was always a risk taker but I knew on the other side of "fear" was my purpose.

Fast forward to the present, I am at the most peace I have ever been in life...

My point of this message is to understand to not let social media or things to come across online or in person, downplay where you are in life. 

This is all a façade but til you understand that you and that big guy above are in charge of your reality.. 

From the company, you keep to the day-to-day decisions you make. 

You will ALWAYS feel like you are behind in life. 

One thing is for certain if you you keep experiencing the same thing it's because:

1. You have not learned from the lesson(s) before

2. You have no form of directions ( get closer to your faith ) 

3. You are still trying to please everyone ( your inner child is dying to be accepted by others even if it hurts) 

4. You have not accepted who you truly are ( which keeps you stagnant) 

5. You're holding on to things and people who are holding you back from being your true self

Ask yourself " When was the last time you put yourself first?"

You can reply to this email to chat or write it down

Til next time

M